If you are my friend, and you do me a favor, I will not buy you a bottle of wine or take you to dinner, etc.
Why? Because friends do favors for friends. That’s part of what it means to be a friend.
We’ve developed this terrible habit in Western Culture where we feel obligated when a friend does us a favor.
It’s not a favor if you have to pay for it. It’s a transaction. So many of our relationships are now transactional, from dating & marriage to family, friends and community: it’s all “what have you done for me lately?”
Rather, I’ll thank you and look forward to the time when I get to do you a favor.